One of the problems of creating any model is that, by nature, models do not encompass all the details of reality.  They can't. In order to be 100% accurate, the model would have to be as large and complex as the subject. In which case, it would no longer be a model -- but the subject itself. So any model designed to explain a subject is going to fall short.

This really applies to the subject of human behavior.

Human behavior and motivations are very seldom simple and almost never only about one thing. While we're on the subject, behavior is often based on unconscious, subconscious and biological imperatives and neurological dictates. In other words, while we may think we're in control, a lot of the time, we're a passenger in our own bus, not the driver.

And then of course you always have the person who wants the map to be the territory. In Emotional Vampires, so the entire universe fits nice and neatly into their own little box.

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Equally unwise is the assumption that any threat of violence is predatorial and therefore inescapable. The common reaction to this is to initiate the physical violence, even when it could have been avoided. In short, the person, believing that any situation will become violent, goes on the offensive. This is a common reaction -- especially among individuals trained in self-proclaimed combative, reality based self-defense or many women's self-defense programs.

Unfortunately, this often results in a person over reacting to conflicts (non-predatorial situations) so they become the aggressors. The problem with this is two fold. First it makes them overly aggressive and difficult for normal people to deal with. To the point that it is often not worth dealing with them at all.  The simple truth is, however, that most of the people they are being aggressive with aren't interested in fighting. Flushed with perceived success, these people embrace this strategy more and more frequently.  In time these people become themselves, if not predators, then bullies.

There is another downside to this however. And that is when these people do meet someone who is competent in predatorial violence, they are still not prepared. Often they are there to 'fight' and 'win' while the predatorial violent person is looking for an overwhelming use of force. Remember the predator is there to punish and hurt you for your offense against him -- and he is willing to use whatever level of force

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